\"\"As a positive parent one of the most important things I encounter is finding a way to communicate with my kids. The means through which we talk to each other has changed a great deal since I was a kid. In those days (the 1950’s through the 1970’s) the only communication tools that were available were our giant tube radios, our black and white televisions and our rotary telephones. During those times the world was a very small place. The information we received was very limited.  In fact most television stations took themselves off the air at 1 or 2 in the morning.  Can you imagine not having any television on between 2AM and 6AM? Today we would be calling our cable companies to find out what was wrong. Then it was a way of life. It was not until the late 1980’s when the electronic age made giant leaps of progress. Today, it is not uncommon to see people interacting with one another with the use of the many smart phones that are available.

The things that seemed not to change from that time to now are negative outside influences. This includes all those things that could and would move us and our kids away from being productive members of society.

My parents like many other parents realized that the best way to keep their kids away from those negative influences is to talk about being positive and to back that talk up with positive living.  What also has to be included is spending one on one time with each kid. I feel that face to face is the best kind of contact.  In this day and age, however, some of that time may take the form of texting or emailing. We must not become fearful of this new and changing technology.  It is imperative that we become smart phone literate. I feel that not only will this become an important part of our communication skills; it can also help us (because we will now understand how to use these phones) in knowing who our kids are in contact with. Negative influential people have also gone high tech. 

There are many times when I text my kids to find out what’s going on. Sometimes my kids feel that I’m texting them to spy on them.  Although this, at times, may be true, I need them to understand that we are a team. Their need to know what’s going on with me is just as important as me knowing about them. There may be a time when I need their help.

 As positive parents we have to understand that being able to communicate with their kids is very important and we must not allow anything to keep us from that goal.


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